Grief does not follow rules.

Grief is a deeply human experience, but many of us carry unhelpful messages about what it should look like. These myths can add unnecessary pressure to an already tender process.

Here are five common myths about grief, and the gentle truths that can bring relief: 

Myth #1: "Grief has five stages you must go through."

Truth: While the "5 stages" model is widely known, research shows grief does not follow a neat sequence. Emotions come and go in waves, often revisiting when we least expect it. There is no right order and no finish line.

Myth #2: "You should be over it by now."

Truth: There is no timeline for grief. Loss reshapes our lives, and healing often means learning to live alongside grief, not erasing it. 

Myth #3: "If you stay busy, grief will go away."

Truth: Distraction may provide temporary relief, but grief needs space to be felt and expressed. Avoiding it can make it linger longer. 

Myth #4: "Grief only happens after death."

Truth: Anticipatory grief -- mourning a decline, diagnosis, or impending loss -- is just as real and valid. Grief can also follow other major life changes. 

Myth #5: "Talking about grief makes it worse."

Truth: Sharing our grief in safe spaces often lightens the load. Being seen and heard helps us process what feels too heavy to carry alone.

You don't have to grieve in silence.

Our Grief Support Group offers a compassionate and understanding space for anyone navigating loss or anticipatory loss. Led by Charles R. Fisher and Joseph Mauler, LCPC, NCC, we will walk you through gentle conversations, supportive practices, and healing tools. 

The next meeting is Thursday, September 18th at 7:15 PM. This bi-weekly group is open to all ages and is eligible for coverage by CareFirst Insurance. Learn more and reserve your spot here. 

You are not alone. Let us hold space for your grief -- together.